19 December 2013
Coping at Christmas
Christmas is supposed to be a
time of peace, goodwill and cheer. The reality, however, is often a
far cry from the Christmas card ideal.
The financial and social pressures of the season can often lead to
stress and anxiety, even more so for people who are already
experiencing these conditions. Difficult family and relationship
situations can be brought to the fore at this time of year, and for
many people the new year can herald a bout of depression.
Here are some simple things you can do to deal with the additional
stresses and anxieties of Christmas.
- Do one thing at a time. Make a list of the things that you need
to do to prepare for Christmas, and decide which is the most
important. Do that one thing and forget about everything on the
list for the time being. Then prioritise the next thing and so on.
As you achieve each thing, the rest of your list will seem
- Take a bit of time out for yourself. Even if it is just 10 or
15 minutes - it will help. Use this time to lose yourself in
something completely unconnected to Christmas - read a few pages of
a book, watch part of a favourite DVD, listen to some music, for
example. Physical activity can help - try going for a walk or a
bike ride. Or if you can make more time, pamper yourself with a
long bath, a night out at the cinema or treat yourself to a
- Try some simple relaxation techniques. The simplest of all is
breathing. Concentrate for a few seconds on taking slow, steady,
deep breaths, emptying your lungs as much as possible in between
each breath. Simple stretches can also help. You can borrow CDs and
books of relaxation techniques from local libraries.
- Talk about your anxieties with someone else - a friend or
relative. Talking about the things that are worrying you can help
you to realise that some of them aren't so important after all, and
help you to focus on one or two things that are at the root of your
- Don't place yourself under unnecessary pressure. At Christmas
we often put ourselves under a huge amount of pressure - searching
for the perfect gifts, cooking the perfect Christmas lunch,
planning a perfect day. We need to remember that we are not perfect
and we shouldn't expect too much of ourselves.
- Keep things in perspective. Compare your worries with those of
others, or imagine how unimportant the stress of Christmas
preparations will seem in a couple of months' time - or even in a
couple or weeks' time.
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